read. love post. six.

It only took one trip through the wardrobe for me to learn that C.S. Lewis would be a forever favorite of mine. This great writer and thinker was not an island; his work was informed by his real-life experience and relationships. I submit that as a reason so many connect so easily to his stories, fiction and non-fiction. We find ourselves and our ideals as well as deep truth when we read.

I have heard the following excerpt from Mere Christianity read at a wedding or two recently (including that of Redesign That’s Emily), so while exploring this theme, I had to share.

“If the old fairy-tale ending “They lived happily ever after” is taken to mean “They felt for the next fifty years exactly as they felt the day before they were married,” then it says what probably never was nor ever would be true, and would be highly undesirable if it were. Who could bear to live in that excitement for even five years? What would become of your work, your appetite, your sleep, your friendships? But, of course, ceasing to be “in love” need not mean ceasing to love. Love in this second sense-love as distinct from “being in love”—is not merely a feeling. It is a deep unity, maintained by the will and deliberately strengthened by habit; reinforced by  the grace which both partners ask, and receive, from God. They can have this love for each other even at those moments when they do not like each other; as you love yourself even when you do not like yourself. They can retain this love even when each would easily, if they allowed themselves, be “in love” with someone else. “Being in love” first moved them to promise fidelity: this quieter love enables them to keep the promise. It is on this love that the engine of marriage is run: being in love was the explosion that started it.”Lewis wrote much more about love in his book concentrated on the subject, The Four Loves, which explores the four kinds of love named in the Greek language: affection (storge), friendship (phileo), romance (eros), and charity/unconditional love (agape). I heartily recommend this read, though I read so little at a time it took me months. It demands attention and thought, so plan accordingly, and enjoy. Preview the book here.

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One response to “read. love post. six.

  • Emily

    After 6 months of marriage I am glad to reread that fab quote. It is the quieter love that keeps the engine running. Of course, I still have newly married butterflies 🙂 Thanks for the reminder ames! LOVE YOU

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